Why Isn’t it Easy to be Your own Cheerleader?

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Why Isn’t it Easy to be Your own Cheerleader?

We’ve ALL been there…self criticism, lack of trust, poor self-image, beating ourselves up inside…the patterns can seemingly be endless and unwavering.  Yet, if we happen to see someone else we know doing the same thing, we rush over and deny all of their supposed short comings and remind them how wonderful they are.  Haven’t you experienced this?  Your friend or family member starts on their list of why they are stupid, ugly, unlucky, too poor, too fat, unlovable and you see anything BUT all those horrible things they proclaim.

So why is it then, that we appear to have blinders on when it comes to seeing our own truth and indeed our own greatness?  What is it about our human mind, ego or spirit that causes us to look for the negative within self first instead of seeing the goodness?

I’ve pondered this question over and over, throughout many meditations, therapy sessions, seminars and sleepless nights.  The subject has appeared to have power over me, and yet instinctively I know, that if I believe in any falsehoods about myself it is still my choice – no one is controlling me or my thoughts to belittle myself.  That’s all me.

So why do it?  What purpose does it serve?  It definitely is NOT a motivator.  If I were to stare into a mirror and constantly repeat, “I’m so ugly,” over and over and over again, it certainly doesn’t make me feel any better about myself and I wouldn’t be rushing out to make any changes to my appearance.

What if self-doubt is all part of this game, this experience of being a spirit within a human form?  What if the big lesson is that we have the chance, and in fact the divine assignment, to realize we ARE more than enough?  That we are, in fact, God/Goddess within a physical form?

Hmmmmm…..let that sink in a moment.

Why let our society set the standard of what is beautiful?  Successful?  Religious?  Abundant?  If you feel the push or the urge to better yourself because YOU want to, that is a wonderful thing to be commended.  But if you are spending your time and effort to become something because you think that is what is expected, I would urge you to find a dear friend and confide in them your thoughts.  Ask for their honest opinion.  I bet you will find it differs from your own.

This path to ascension that everyone talks about has many steps and many pathways, yet the goal is the same: to move upwards to a higher vibration and understanding.  I believe that a major part of that is realizing and accepting that spark of God within us.  And not just accepting it, but letting it shine for the rest of the world to see!

The next time you hear that negative self talk in your head telling you that you can’t or that you are undeserving, STOP.  Be your own cheerleader.  Think of your best friend telling you the same scenario and then think of how you would respond.  Would you be critical? Would you point out all their downfalls?  Or would you be compassionate?  Supportive?  Understanding?

Just as we are here to understand that there is more to life than just a physical form, there is also more to life that our limiting views we place upon ourselves.  There is so much to be experienced as we recognize the God/Goddess energy within us all.  It isn’t about looking like a person on the cover of a magazine or having the most money in the bank.  It’s about owning our light and our perfection just the way we are.

Think about it….would you ever see Buddha in a gym working on losing weight or bulking up those muscles?  OR how bout Jesus trying to increase his bank account?  Mother Teresa getting some work done?

I’m guessing, no, you would not.  Unless of course, that’s what they really wanted for themselves.

Cheer on, cheerleaders.  You are MORE THAN worthy of all life’s opportunities and blessings.


Don’t Worry…..Be Happy !


Don’t Worry…..Be Happy !!

How much of our time and our lives is spent worrying?  If you had to guess, what would your estimate be?  25% ?  50% ?  90% ?  I would imagine that each person has their own worry scale, but what amount, if any, would you say is healthy?  Or is worrying a healthy habit to have?

The very act of worrying itself is not just time and energy spent.  It has an emotional and physical impact on your body.  Worry to the extreme can put us into the “fight or flight” response – racing our heart rate, making our breathing shallow, constricting our muscles and pushing blood flow to our vital organs.  On an emotional level it can take you into a depression and attract lower vibrations and feelings.

Quoting Wikepedia: Worry is thoughts, images and emotions of a negative nature in which mental attempts are made[vague] to avoid anticipated potential threats.  

Let’s note the words, “negative nature” and “anticipated potential threats.” In the definition above, that would mean that to worry is to expect a negative outcome.

The words, “thoughts, images and emotions” construct everything that our imaginations are based on; our vision, our feelings and the way that we think.

What if, instead of focusing on the negative outcome we fear will come to pass, we instead concentrate on a positive conclusion?  It takes just as much energy to think a negative thought as it does a positive one, but the impact on our lives is vastly different.

When our brains focus on positive energy, our thoughts travel out through the Universe and so begins the law of attraction – like attracts like.  Our brains also start to create “happy chemicals” in our bodies that make us feel euphoric and light.  This allows the lymph system to relax, our muscles to soften and our breathing to become deeper.  The conscious mind, while still intact and activated, merges on a deeper level with the areas of the brain that are fully aware that anything is possible (the sub-conscious and super-conscious parts of the mind).

I am reminded of an incident last week.  I awoke and was in bed, thinking about my day and what I had planned for later in the week.  My thoughts when to a person that I have a rocky relationship with.  I began thinking of the possibility of seeing her later in the week, which in turn led me to remember all the upheavals we’ve had through the course of our connection.  I rekindled all those feelings of betrayal, hurt and fear.  I was all caught up in the worry of how I would act and what I would do IF I saw her later in the week, when I heard a loud noise in my room.  It startled me and broke the pattern of my thoughts.  I heard the voice of one of my guides.  “Enough already!”

As I began to tune in to the energy of my guide, I sat up in bed.  I noticed that my head was hurting, my stomach was in knots and I just felt like crap.  Definitely not the way I wanted to start my morning!  I knew that this what not how I felt when I first woke up.

“Can’t you see how you’re affecting your body with your thoughts?  Your body was never designed to be under constant stress.  Can you feel what you’ve created?  How you’ve blocked the flow of your system’s natural rhythms?  What a state to put yourself in!  You are setting yourself up for a very low morning, Dear One.”

Wow.  I don’t know what felt worse…the headache or being disciplined by an Angel.  I think the latter.  And what she said hit me so hard.  The ailments I felt in my body were not caused by a virus or depletion.  They were caused by me.  I created them.  I quickly tuned in to see what would help in alleviating the physical symptoms.  After saying a prayer of gratitude for my body, drinking some water and doing some yoga I felt 100% better.

I should also add that the woman I was so worried about seeing later in the week never showed up at that meeting.  All that worry and stress over something that never even happened.  Isn’t that the way most of our worries pan out?  We worry over something that never even comes to pass.

I am still grateful, nonetheless, for I’ve learned a valuable lesson.  Don’t worry….be happy!  That’s my new mantra.

The Energy Our Thoughts Create

The Energy our Thoughts Create




The Human mind is a powerful tool of creativity

 The brain is constantly in motion, giving and receiving energy, creating new synaptic pathways for information to flow

Our thoughts become words and actions, which also carry the same energy of our thoughts.

Therefore, our thoughts become our reality.  By acting these thoughts out, by saying these words, and simply by the energy of our thinking, we create our lives.  How powerful are we?  If we are in the constant movement of negativity, more negativity comes our way.  In the same respect, if we are in the flow of positive energy and thought, positive experiences and people flood our existence.  It is a very simple, yet oh, so powerful Universal Law.

What happens then, when we have lower thought forms?  Ideals of anger, rage, jealousy, dominance, fear and even violence?  What happens to our lives?  What happens to our bodies?

When we experience negative thoughts, and in so doing create negative words and actions, many things occur within our bodies.  We go into survival mode – at least that’s what our body thinks.  Our adrenaline kicks in, our muscles tighten and all of those “fight or flight” animal instincts come into play.  When this is repeated over and over and over again, from constant negative thinking, our bodies start to manifest dis-ease and illness in the forms of adrenal burnout, strokes, cancer, migraines, and lymphatic system upset.  Our physical forms were not created to be in the constant state of chaos.  Much like cars are not created to be constantly driven at high speed.  My Ford Fusion can get up to 115 miles an hour, BUT that doesn’t mean I will be taking it to that speed regularly, or EVER.  What would happen to our automobiles if we were to drive them like that on a daily basis?  Things would start falling apart, wouldn’t they?


Not only do our bodies bear the effects of our thinking, but the rest of the world does as well.  Have you ever been around another person who is in a really good mood? What’s it like to be with them?  How do you feel?  Do you find yourself sharing laughter with them?  Does your own mood and energy lighten by simply being in their presence?

And what happens when we’re around someone who’s NOT in a good mood?  Do we become drained?  Does our mood change?  You BET it does!

I could quote you countless studies on how this works, and read from scientific essays and thought provoking experiments.  But allow me to SHOW you:

While teaching a children’s class in 2009, we followed the rice experiment made famous by Dr. Emoto.  I made some plain white rice, and placed about 1/4 cup in small jars the children had brought.  Each child had two jars, and on one jar we placed a label that said, “Happy” with a smiley face.  On the other jar we labeled, “Sad” with a frown face.  The kids were told to hold each jar for at least one minute a day and think happy thoughts to the happy jar and sad thoughts to the sad jar.  At the end of one week, they brought back their jars to show the results.

one week happy sad

This is my five year old son’s jars after one week.  When he held the sad jar, he thought of cleaning his room and of thunder storms.  When he held the happy jar, he thought of a trip to Disneyland and chocolate chip cookies.  You can see the difference in the consistency and the mold growing in each jar.

Imagine what happens to our bodies inside when we have negative thoughts about ourselves?


So you can see how POWERFUL our thoughts are.  What can we do to change our thought patterns?

AFFIRMATIONS – positive phrases that assist us with changing our thought patterns through their energy and through reciting them in repetition.

OPPOSITE RULE – sometimes to break a pattern, its as simple as doing the “opposite” of what you would normally do

FIND THE GRATITUDE – show gratitude for everything in your life, including the good things coming your way.

FIND THE GIFT – there is a gift in every situation. It’s not always easy and apparent, but it is there.

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH LIKE KIND – The more likened energy you have around you, the easier it is to achieve the results you want.

LET GO OF THE PAST – Release past hurts, failures, let downs, pain, ill will, fear and doubt.  What has happened has happened.  You cannot change it, but you sure can learn from it.

Ask yourself, when you feel stuck, “Where are my thoughts?  What am I creating? “  Are you in the flow of higher vibrational thinking, or lower vibrational thinking?

Some EASY ways to lift your mood:

Listen to uplifting music: classical, new age, etc

Get outside – breathe fresh air

Talk to a positive friend J

Eat something that’s GOOD for you



Watch a comedy

LAUGH – the quickest, easiest way to raise your vibration


YOU are POWERFUL!  Remember you are always in control of how you think.

Keep thinking positive,