How Do You Find an “Ethical” Healer?

 How Do You Find an “Ethical” Healer?

Each day, billions of us seek out healing.  Healing comes in many forms.  It can be in the form of a therapist, a dentist, a doctor, a chiropractor, a psychic, a medium, an energy worker, a shaman, and the list continues on.  How do you know who to trust?  How can you find a healer who is ethical?

My definition of ethical healer relates to someone who is in integrity, has respect for their client or patient, does not over step personal boundaries, is honest and who puts the person they are caring for first and foremost.  An ethical healer has no personal agenda when it comes to those they are providing service.

When we seek healing, in whatever form that may be, we are in a vulnerable state.  No one goes in to the doctor or their shrink when they’re having a good day.  And no one seeks out energy work or spiritual advice unless they’re in a state of questioning or imbalance.  It can be difficult to make good judgment when our minds or bodies are in chaos.  So how then do we find practitioners that are in alignment with our needs?

First, ASK FOR RECOMMENDATIONS.  Ask around for personal recommendations from those you trust.  Next, DO SOME RESEARCH.  Look online.  How do you feel when you see their photo on social media, their webpage?  Are there any reviews of them and what do they say?  Finally, DO A GUT CHECK.  Center yourself and ask – is this the right healer for me?  What do you feel from that question? If at any time during this process you catch a bad vibe – move on.  Look for someone else.  If all feels good, reach out to that healer and make contact.  Interview them by phone or in person, explaining what services you’re looking for.  Notice their reactions, their energy and how they connect with you.  If this feels right, then proceed and make an appointment.

Seems like a lot work, right?  Trust me, this is better time spent on the forefront than trying to rectify damage caused by someone of ill intent.  Remember, you are worth spending that time to find someone who has your best interests in mind.

As in all professions in existence, there are those who practice with good and with bad intentions. And if a doctor is in error, he can be reported to the state medical board and have his license revoked.  If a psychiatrist puts the moves on a patient, they can be reported as well.  These medical healers have rules and regulations they are sworn to follow and if they do not, they are not legally allowed to practice.  But what rules do spiritual healers have to follow?  What governing board holds them to a certain standard?

There is one Universal law that all spiritual healers should follow and that is, “Always respect and never impede upon a person’s free will.” What that means, is that a spiritual healer should never take advantage of their client – energetically, spiritually, physically, mentally, or emotionally.  Never cause harm is another highly understood unwritten law as well, and yet there are those who profess to be “healers” who still inflict this negativity.

It’s important to understand that YOU are in the driver’s seat and in control during every healing session.  If something is happening that you don’t like or trust – stop the session.  That can be hard to understand if you’re just opening up to your spirituality and don’t have an awareness of what goes on during a session.  So let’s talk about what happens during healing sessions for further information.

I’ve had the extreme blessing of experiencing many forms and modalities of spiritual healing: Native American, Egyptian, Brazilian, Reiki, Huna, Pleadian, Tantra, Yoga, Regression, Crystal Therapy, Soul Retrieval, Hypnosis, Time Line Therapy, NLP, Massage, Theta, Chelation, Santeria, VooDoo, Angel Therapy, Amanae, Sound Therapy and various forms of Shamanics from all over the world (its awesome to have friends and soul family from lots of different cultures).  One thing is common in all of the ethical treatments I’ve received – the practitioner makes the client feel comfortable, safe and always respects their boundaries.  The facilitator will check in throughout the session to make sure the client is okay and they always remind the client that if anything happens they are not comfortable with that the session will stop.  This puts the client at ease.  A good practitioner will explain to the client the process of what will happen during a session.  If hands on healing is involved, they will ask permission before placing hands on the client.  There should NEVER be any sexual touching whatsoever, unless that is the type of therapy you are seeking, and even in those instances, permission is ALWAYS asked before touch is given.  Some modalities require objects to be placed on the skin for healing, and again, with those instances, the healer should ask permission and let the client know ahead of time.

If I am administering an energy work session and I sense blockages or issues in the area of the sexual organs I will place my hand in the client’s energy field well above the body to help remove the block and send healing.  Energy can be transferred without touch, and again, it is most important to make the client comfortable or else they cannot receive the healing.

Your personal boundaries and safety are what is most important.  If you’re laying on a treatment table and all of the sudden you feel like your safety is in jeopardy – GET UP AND LEAVE.  Don’t feel bad, don’t worry about hurting the healer’s feelings.  It’s never supposed to be about them anyway – your healing is about YOU.  For some people this is a concept that is easily understood, but for others, especially those in extreme vulnerability, the lines are blurred.  All they can think about is getting better and if you’re not used to the process of energy work or healing sessions, you may be lead to believe that this is part of it.

 IT ISN’T.

Unfortunately, I was one of those people who lacked awareness and who simply wanted the pain to stop and so I gave my power and my trust to a healer who abused me.  I witness countless clients who have been in similar situations like I have been and it sickens me to my core.  There are millions of healers out there, myself included, that are not held to any standard of care other than our own personal integrity, committment, intention and karma.  There are too many modalities in existence to create any type of umbrella legislature to abide by.  That’s why its important to do your due diligence in research before seeking treatment.

The wounds that can be caused by ill intent are not easily healed.  Learn from my experience and the countless experiences of others who have been wounded.  Trust your instincts.  If something feels wrong, it is.

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The Dark Side of Living in the Light

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The Dark Side of Living in the Light

Catchy title, right?  Not wishing to be dramatic here.  Just telling it like it is.

For some people, living in “the light” means being of a higher vibration and seeing that vibration in all of existence.  That is beautiful, amazing and wonderful.  It is possible to find your Zen and look at life from the higher perspective and realize that no matter what happens in the lifetime, you are a soul with a continuous stream of existence.

For other people, they find their spirituality within the light by adapting belief systems and practices that allow them to feel closer to their higher power.  This too, is an incredible way of life.

And still others take on roles as light workers, healers, ministers and such to help people open up to their light, to empower them to embrace their spirit and their strength.  Many of these Spiritual teachers and leaders teach that we are of a vibration now where darkness no longer exists, while others will pound the reality of evil into the forefront of their teachings to elicit fear.

So where is reality in all this?

I believe we create our own reality through our perspective.  If you believe that we are living in a higher dimension right now where no dark energies can be present, then that is your reality.  If you believe you have to adhere to certain rules and rituals because the devil waits for you around each corner, then that is your truth.

I never really believed in curses or spells.  Sure, I liked to play witch when I was a little girl and was known to play with candles when I wasn’t supposed to.  I was drawn to ancient Egyptian texts at a young age and marveled at their rites and incantations used in ceremony.  I thought it magical.  I respected their devotion to their faith.  But that, honestly, was about it.

Then began my studies in Native American Shamanism.  I was part of ceremonial practices and could feel Spirit and energy all around me.  It wasn’t a spell.  I wasn’t directing negativity to anyone.  It was beautiful, engaging, entrancing and LIGHT!  The connection made my heart sing.

As I dug deeper into my spiritual learning, I still held a disregard for curses, believing that only those in a state of fear and adhering to a particular belief system could be affected by such things.  I gave this practice no power whatsoever.  Even when my teachers would explain about psychic warfare and how to combat it, I would go to my happy place in my mind.  Those things had nothing to do with me.  They were for other people, not as “light” as me of course, to deal with in their reality.

And then I got my first attachment.  It hit me hard.  I was depleted, mentally, physically, emotionally and definitely spiritually.  I thought I was losing my mind.  I couldn’t concentrate, didn’t want to move and definitely felt like leaving this life would be the best choice I could make.  Thankfully, I turned to a trusted teacher and Shaman for help.  I thought it was something purely physical or perhaps I pulled something in from a client.

As I spoke to my Elder, he connected with my energy.  I could see him going into trance and taking inventory of my field.  Within moments he told me each physical symptom I was having, the negative thoughts I’d been experiencing as well as visions of a man I’d been working with.  He went on further to explain to me that this man had placed a negative entity into my energy field to weaken me and cause me harm.

I was dumbfounded.  Why would anyone want to do that?  I was very Pollyannaish about being of the light.  I thought as long as I did my light work I got a free pass on negativity.

Ummmm….NO!  Even as I write that statement I cringe.  And I laugh.

My wonderful teacher explained to me the importance of boundaries – physical, emotional and energetic.  He also enforced and reiterated the tools I had been taught but not practicing myself in regards to clearing and dealing with negative energies directed to cause and inflict harm.

My mind and heart went into fear.  Was I so weak that I allowed this person to harm me?  What would happen next time?  Why didn’t my guides let me know?  How can I be intuitive and not know this?

I saw the eyes of my teacher begin to sparkle and a smile paint across his compassionate face.  “What did you learn?”  He asked.  “What gifts were you given?  And Honey, if you expect your guides to give you ALL the answers you are barking up the wrong tree.  If they gave you all the answers why would you be here?  You would stay on the other side.”

I sat with that.  Long and hard I sat with that.  I began to realize that life is a learning curve.  Each experience gifts us an opportunity to discover something new.

Doing this work for going on 20 years now, I’ve witnessed and experienced more than my share of light and dark.  I believe we can’t have one without the other – not on this Earth plane.  We come here to experience both and to learn from each.  And then we have a choice.  Which will we allow to be the driving force in our life, good or evil?

Yes, there are curses, spells, negative entities, demons, dark dimensional beings, psychic attacks and other creepy crawlies in existence.  But that doesn’t mean we have to bury our heads in the sand or hide under the covers.  Knowledge, as they say, is power.  There are tools to deter each of these scenarios and just because something is out there doesn’t mean you will experience it.

Every bad thing that happens in your life isn’t because of a curse or some sorcerer conjuring black magic.  Take responsibility for your life, meaning – your BODY, your MIND and your ENERGY. When all are in good working order with proper boundaries in place, no darkness can come through.

The Search for Truth, Proof and Pudding…

The PROOF is in the PUDDING.  Well, the first time I heard that saying, I went running for the fridge, threw open the door in wild abandon, grabbed my favorite chocolate jello pudding cup, and rushed to eat each bite.  But there was no toy inside, like the ones that came in my Frosted Flakes cereal.  What the heck was this “proof” the grownups were talking about?

I can’t begin to count how many times in my life someone has come to me and said, “Prove it!” In my life, work and belief system this happens quite frequently.  Believe it or not, everyone doesn’t exactly share my views on speaking to the dead, connecting with Angels, or reading energy.

Bummer.  They really don’t know what they are missing out on.

That saying, “The proof is in the pudding,” essentially means, that to full understand (test) something, you have to experience it yourself.  It’s so interesting to me, how people on the constant search for truth (or proving everyone else wrong) very rarely put themselves in the position to be open to the experience.  But when they do, amazing things can happen.

I am reminded of a man I met at an expo a few years back.  He would come into the room where I was giving Angel readings, look at the booth, walk back and forth and leave, only to come back fifteen to twenty minutes later and repeat the same process.  When I was not with a client, I finally asked the man if I could help him.  He began telling me how he though this reading stuff was all “Hooey” and he couldn’t believe that people actually were interested.  He started to ask me questions, “Do you believe in God while you’re doing this?  Are you connecting with the Devil?  How do you get your information?” and my most favorite, “What proof do you have that what you are doing works?”

With a smile on my face, I answered all his questions.  I explained to him that I do not read minds, although being a mom and wife I really wish I could, and that I connect with the Angels and Guides that present themselves for information.  So far as proof, I had many written testimonials present that he had read. but I also added that if he really wanted to know about any kind of proof, he should experience it himself.

The man pondered this for a few minutes.  I was waiting for him to leave the booth, when he sat down beside me and said, “Okay.  I’ll do it, but only a short one of those reading things.”

I touched his hands to connect with his energy and sensed a deep fear and frustration.  This man had become resentful and skeptical of life, looking for the negatives so that he could concentrate his energy in that flow.  I began to tell him what I was picking up on about his health, his personality, and his work.  The timer rang at the end of our ten minute session, but I was drawn to continue.  I was able to connect with the energy of his heart and all his goodness and changed things to a positive perspective he had not thought of in some time.  He began to weep.  Our short session lasted more than forty minutes and ended with a heartfelt hug.

The man went back into the main area of the expo.  Soon there was a long line at my booth, a result of this man sharing his experience with the rest of the crowd.  My skeptic became my biggest cheerleader!  And not because of me, but because he was willing to be open to the reading and his own realizations.

What if I had just blown him off when he began asking me all those questions?  We both would not have learned a very important lesson.  I learned to strive to see God’s light in everyone, no matter their attitude.  When you connect with another person’s heart, it is an amazing miracle and exchange of energy.

We are constantly on the search for proof and truth.  That’s the fun of being human though, right?  IF something doesn’t fit, we find something else that does.

 

I wanted to share some “proof” with you in a few videos I received from a dear friend.  These videos were taken on Christmas of  last year with a cell phone.

Angel at Christmas  In this video, you will see a light being to the right of the picture.  This figure was not seen while the video was being filmed.  Look at the reflection in the mirror as it appears there as well.

Angel at Christmas 2 This is a video taken moments later.  See how the dog, Nacho, is looking at the figure and is no longer interested in play time.

 

What are your thoughts on these videos?  I would love to hear your point of view.

 

Love & Laughter,

Danielle