How Do You Find an “Ethical” Healer?

 How Do You Find an “Ethical” Healer?

Each day, billions of us seek out healing.  Healing comes in many forms.  It can be in the form of a therapist, a dentist, a doctor, a chiropractor, a psychic, a medium, an energy worker, a shaman, and the list continues on.  How do you know who to trust?  How can you find a healer who is ethical?

My definition of ethical healer relates to someone who is in integrity, has respect for their client or patient, does not over step personal boundaries, is honest and who puts the person they are caring for first and foremost.  An ethical healer has no personal agenda when it comes to those they are providing service.

When we seek healing, in whatever form that may be, we are in a vulnerable state.  No one goes in to the doctor or their shrink when they’re having a good day.  And no one seeks out energy work or spiritual advice unless they’re in a state of questioning or imbalance.  It can be difficult to make good judgment when our minds or bodies are in chaos.  So how then do we find practitioners that are in alignment with our needs?

First, ASK FOR RECOMMENDATIONS.  Ask around for personal recommendations from those you trust.  Next, DO SOME RESEARCH.  Look online.  How do you feel when you see their photo on social media, their webpage?  Are there any reviews of them and what do they say?  Finally, DO A GUT CHECK.  Center yourself and ask – is this the right healer for me?  What do you feel from that question? If at any time during this process you catch a bad vibe – move on.  Look for someone else.  If all feels good, reach out to that healer and make contact.  Interview them by phone or in person, explaining what services you’re looking for.  Notice their reactions, their energy and how they connect with you.  If this feels right, then proceed and make an appointment.

Seems like a lot work, right?  Trust me, this is better time spent on the forefront than trying to rectify damage caused by someone of ill intent.  Remember, you are worth spending that time to find someone who has your best interests in mind.

As in all professions in existence, there are those who practice with good and with bad intentions. And if a doctor is in error, he can be reported to the state medical board and have his license revoked.  If a psychiatrist puts the moves on a patient, they can be reported as well.  These medical healers have rules and regulations they are sworn to follow and if they do not, they are not legally allowed to practice.  But what rules do spiritual healers have to follow?  What governing board holds them to a certain standard?

There is one Universal law that all spiritual healers should follow and that is, “Always respect and never impede upon a person’s free will.” What that means, is that a spiritual healer should never take advantage of their client – energetically, spiritually, physically, mentally, or emotionally.  Never cause harm is another highly understood unwritten law as well, and yet there are those who profess to be “healers” who still inflict this negativity.

It’s important to understand that YOU are in the driver’s seat and in control during every healing session.  If something is happening that you don’t like or trust – stop the session.  That can be hard to understand if you’re just opening up to your spirituality and don’t have an awareness of what goes on during a session.  So let’s talk about what happens during healing sessions for further information.

I’ve had the extreme blessing of experiencing many forms and modalities of spiritual healing: Native American, Egyptian, Brazilian, Reiki, Huna, Pleadian, Tantra, Yoga, Regression, Crystal Therapy, Soul Retrieval, Hypnosis, Time Line Therapy, NLP, Massage, Theta, Chelation, Santeria, VooDoo, Angel Therapy, Amanae, Sound Therapy and various forms of Shamanics from all over the world (its awesome to have friends and soul family from lots of different cultures).  One thing is common in all of the ethical treatments I’ve received – the practitioner makes the client feel comfortable, safe and always respects their boundaries.  The facilitator will check in throughout the session to make sure the client is okay and they always remind the client that if anything happens they are not comfortable with that the session will stop.  This puts the client at ease.  A good practitioner will explain to the client the process of what will happen during a session.  If hands on healing is involved, they will ask permission before placing hands on the client.  There should NEVER be any sexual touching whatsoever, unless that is the type of therapy you are seeking, and even in those instances, permission is ALWAYS asked before touch is given.  Some modalities require objects to be placed on the skin for healing, and again, with those instances, the healer should ask permission and let the client know ahead of time.

If I am administering an energy work session and I sense blockages or issues in the area of the sexual organs I will place my hand in the client’s energy field well above the body to help remove the block and send healing.  Energy can be transferred without touch, and again, it is most important to make the client comfortable or else they cannot receive the healing.

Your personal boundaries and safety are what is most important.  If you’re laying on a treatment table and all of the sudden you feel like your safety is in jeopardy – GET UP AND LEAVE.  Don’t feel bad, don’t worry about hurting the healer’s feelings.  It’s never supposed to be about them anyway – your healing is about YOU.  For some people this is a concept that is easily understood, but for others, especially those in extreme vulnerability, the lines are blurred.  All they can think about is getting better and if you’re not used to the process of energy work or healing sessions, you may be lead to believe that this is part of it.


Unfortunately, I was one of those people who lacked awareness and who simply wanted the pain to stop and so I gave my power and my trust to a healer who abused me.  I witness countless clients who have been in similar situations like I have been and it sickens me to my core.  There are millions of healers out there, myself included, that are not held to any standard of care other than our own personal integrity, committment, intention and karma.  There are too many modalities in existence to create any type of umbrella legislature to abide by.  That’s why its important to do your due diligence in research before seeking treatment.

The wounds that can be caused by ill intent are not easily healed.  Learn from my experience and the countless experiences of others who have been wounded.  Trust your instincts.  If something feels wrong, it is.


Coming Full Circle…

Coming Full Circle

The Universe has many gifts to reveal.  We need only allow our hearts and our minds open to receive them.

Earlier this week I had the amazing opportunity to give a distance energy session to someone who had never experienced Reiki or any other form of energy work.  I know his family, and his sister had mentioned she felt some heavy energies around him and encouraged him to have a session.  When I spoke to him, I could tell he was a bit hesitant and skeptical, and lets just face it, who really wouldn’t be, but he was still open to the process.  I asked him to relax and lay down and explained I would call him back in thirty minutes when our session was complete.

I tapped into his energy and could feel a heaviness around him.  I began to clear the dense energies from his field, but still felt the imbalance of another presence.  My instinct took me closer to the energetic soul field and there I could see not one, but two souls sharing the same physical space.  I have seen this before when spirits who have passed within the physical become confused or traumatized and instead of completely crossing over, they attach to the energy of another person.  As I sensed the spirit, my chest became constricted and tight, as if I were having an asthma attack.  I called in the Arch Angel Gabriel and began working with this Spirit to cross, explaining to him that he was needed on the other side and that his energy was better suited there.  I could tell that the Spirit was that of a child, a boy, but I did not resonate on a certain age, nor dig deeper for more details as it was most important to me to detach him from my client, as well as free the Spirit himself.

As his energy crossed through Gabriel’s beautiful tunnel of light to the other side, I could feel the flow of energy return to my client.  This was his own energy grounding back into his body, where for such a long time it had been hindered by the existence of the other soul.  I sensed the confusion my client has felt, not knowing about this attachment on a conscious level, but feeling the effects from it all the same.  Imagine carrying someone else’s energy around with you for years.  Not only is it draining, but it is also emotionally overwhelming.  Sometimes you wonder if your thoughts are your own or what drives you to make the decisions that you do.

There was no ill will meant by the Spirit that attached to him.  The Spirit saw my client as amazingly brilliant.  He saw the light and the heart of my client and wanted to be everything that he was.  He had made a connection with him during his life in the physical and wanted it to continue.   Though this Spirit passed without physical pain, there was confusion with the passing.  He felt he had not finished the work he came here to do nor completed his purpose.  He also did not want to leave behind this connection he had to my client.

I sensed the attachment took place around the time when my client was 7-8 years of age.  I was not clear of who the Spirit was, and I was more concerned with continuing the clearing of my client’s energy.  Working with each chakra center, I assisted with release and clearing so that no traces of the attachment were left.  His energy felt much lighter and brighter when the session was complete.

I phoned him to explain what I picked up on during the session.  I have to admit, it was not easy for me to give him this information.  I did not want to freak him out, yet in being true to the experience and to my own intuition, I conveyed what had come through in the session.  There was not much response from him, but I could also tell that he was coming out of his trance like state from the session.  One thing I have learned in all the years I’ve been doing this is not to put my own personal expectation onto anyone else’s session.  Each person absorbs and feels the energy differently.  Some go to sleep, some feel me working on them, and some feel nothing.  It’s all good, because the person gets exactly what THEY need.

We spoke for a few minutes and I told him if he had any questions he could contact me.  Soon afterwards I received an email from him stating that his parents had a baby around the time he was 7-8 years old that had not lived very long.  This was also around the time he had asthma.  He was wondering if the passing of his brother was connected.

This rocked me to my core.  I was at his brother’s funeral, over twenty years ago.    I remember seeing him, my client, going up to the casket.  I had seen flashes of this while I was working on him, but I did not want to bring that forward as I did not want to cause him any pain.  We chatted about a few other details online, and I could feel the love that his brother had for him.  What a beautiful gift my client had given his brother by opening himself up in order for his brother to cross over.

It was one of those full circle moments for me.  To bear witness to such a beautiful miracle brought me to tears, and also allowed me to go to a deeper state of release for my own grief I’ve been carrying for the loss of my father a few months ago.

There are no coincidences in this life.  Gifts are all around us if we choose to see them.

Love has no barriers, no matter where you exist.