Why Isn’t it Easy to be Your own Cheerleader?
We’ve ALL been there…self criticism, lack of trust, poor self-image, beating ourselves up inside…the patterns can seemingly be endless and unwavering. Yet, if we happen to see someone else we know doing the same thing, we rush over and deny all of their supposed short comings and remind them how wonderful they are. Haven’t you experienced this? Your friend or family member starts on their list of why they are stupid, ugly, unlucky, too poor, too fat, unlovable and you see anything BUT all those horrible things they proclaim.
So why is it then, that we appear to have blinders on when it comes to seeing our own truth and indeed our own greatness? What is it about our human mind, ego or spirit that causes us to look for the negative within self first instead of seeing the goodness?
I’ve pondered this question over and over, throughout many meditations, therapy sessions, seminars and sleepless nights. The subject has appeared to have power over me, and yet instinctively I know, that if I believe in any falsehoods about myself it is still my choice – no one is controlling me or my thoughts to belittle myself. That’s all me.
So why do it? What purpose does it serve? It definitely is NOT a motivator. If I were to stare into a mirror and constantly repeat, “I’m so ugly,” over and over and over again, it certainly doesn’t make me feel any better about myself and I wouldn’t be rushing out to make any changes to my appearance.
What if self-doubt is all part of this game, this experience of being a spirit within a human form? What if the big lesson is that we have the chance, and in fact the divine assignment, to realize we ARE more than enough? That we are, in fact, God/Goddess within a physical form?
Hmmmmm…..let that sink in a moment.
Why let our society set the standard of what is beautiful? Successful? Religious? Abundant? If you feel the push or the urge to better yourself because YOU want to, that is a wonderful thing to be commended. But if you are spending your time and effort to become something because you think that is what is expected, I would urge you to find a dear friend and confide in them your thoughts. Ask for their honest opinion. I bet you will find it differs from your own.
This path to ascension that everyone talks about has many steps and many pathways, yet the goal is the same: to move upwards to a higher vibration and understanding. I believe that a major part of that is realizing and accepting that spark of God within us. And not just accepting it, but letting it shine for the rest of the world to see!
The next time you hear that negative self talk in your head telling you that you can’t or that you are undeserving, STOP. Be your own cheerleader. Think of your best friend telling you the same scenario and then think of how you would respond. Would you be critical? Would you point out all their downfalls? Or would you be compassionate? Supportive? Understanding?
Just as we are here to understand that there is more to life than just a physical form, there is also more to life that our limiting views we place upon ourselves. There is so much to be experienced as we recognize the God/Goddess energy within us all. It isn’t about looking like a person on the cover of a magazine or having the most money in the bank. It’s about owning our light and our perfection just the way we are.
Think about it….would you ever see Buddha in a gym working on losing weight or bulking up those muscles? OR how bout Jesus trying to increase his bank account? Mother Teresa getting some work done?
I’m guessing, no, you would not. Unless of course, that’s what they really wanted for themselves.
Cheer on, cheerleaders. You are MORE THAN worthy of all life’s opportunities and blessings.